The Colors of Autumn

                During fall season plants and trees get ready to struggle with the harshness of winter weather; same as people.  We tend to “change colors” as hard times approaches.  Surviving is an instinct that brings out the best and the not so pretty of our personality.  In life we are bound to encounter moments that will make us change in order to adapt.  Everyone changes as it is part of “growing up”. 

                Autumn is a good time to reflect on the things that are influencing your personality negatively.  Whatever those things might be if we are not able to rid them from our lives we can at least modify them.  Influences are not always negative.  Ponder on how to conserve those which fill your spirit and give you strength to survive a winter storm.  Life is about balance. 

                Also, don’t forget to enjoy the diversity in people as you do the wonderful colors on the leaves.  ;-) 

Your true desires.

Good Morning!


    Soon enough the sun will come out and the whole world will light up to guide your every step.  So get up and get going.  Today is the day you search deep into that part of you that's hidden from everyone else.  The part of you that holds safe your true desires, that's where you should find the to do list for today.


     Dress your best and you'll feel the same.  Put on something different, or paint your nails a bright color, or add on a different taste to the every day coffee.  Be willing to accept the happiness that comes with the unexpected.


    Best wishes to you my friend.

A clear start for summer time.

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     Take a moment and feel the heat, the sun is shining, the flowers are in full bloom and the hear the laughter of kids playing outside; it's summer time.  


    Summer usually means lots of action, family activities and fun. No one wants to be left behind cleaning after everyone else all summer. Here are some ideas to get organized and out to enjoy this time of year.

    First let's tackle one task.  You'll see that this one task will lead you to another and before you've realize it, you are done.  

    Classify objects.  Cleaning is like playing the game what belongs where.  Most clutters are made by leaving things where they don't belong.  

    Now that you've gotten into motion let's multitask a little.  Now days everyone is used to multitasking.  Throw some linen on the washer.  Hey, handsome don't give me that look... male or female there are things you have been putting off.  Do them NOW! 


    Cleaning is important, we must shower everyday, wash our hands every chance we get.  And removing dust is an easy and healthy activity.  


    If you still don't know where to start... clear your desk, place everything where it belongs and wipe it clean. That's a start!  

"Me" Time

   When we hear the term "me time" the image that comes along is one with scented candles, a bubble bath, or a battery operated massager... 


    Really it could consist of any time you dedicate to something you enjoy, and receive the most from it.  For example going to the movies alone, preferable to watch a comedy from which you leave with a stomach ache from laughing so much.  Yoga, a morning jog, gardening, or even shopping for your self, these all work as self relaxers. 


So go ahead and even if it's once a week receive an appointment with yourself!

Stressed out? I don't think so.

Stress is like a silent, malignant, force that destroys you from with in.  If that sentence wasn't graphic enough, think about it...

     Picture a female, smiling, looking up at the sky, taking in the sun.  Do you think she has worries on her mind? She probably does.  Few seconds of breathing in fresh air to cool down, drinking a bottle of water or enjoying a well deserved treat whatever it might be, can serve you better than any anti aging cream.  Stress is consuming us, ruining our relationships with family, friends, and lovers.

     Someone is more likely to find you attractive if you don't look like a wreck.  So, if you were up all day studying for that big test, or spent the morning arguing, your heel broke, you left your cellphone home, or whatever it might be, put on your fave shades, get some glue, or simply take a deep breath.

Remember the world is yours to conquer, but tomorrow is a new day and after follows another.

Ice Breaker

Hello World!

What do you want to talk about today? Anything you'd like to share? hmmm... anyone we can talk about?

I'm sure there are a few memories you'll always hold in mind. It's curious that these tend to be those moments of surprise, funny humiliation, enjoyment, mostly moments that bring a good feeling. These events form part of who we've become today.

Don't be selfish!! Next time there's nothing to talk about, share one of these experiences as a conversation starter. Also as a way of welcoming the other person into feeling comfortable and oping up. It's an effective way of getting to know each other.

Sex in the shower

Sex-ie 01

--------------------------> the shower

There's something about waterfalls that make it romantic. The relaxing sound of the water falling and splashing, could that be it? If you want to feel bare and intimate, with the feeling that there is no one else at this moment more important that the two of you, try this. Set up the mood, or go with the spontaneity that sometimes hits us when aroused. While undressing lead your partner to the bathroom and turn the water on (shower). Let it fall and concentrate on relaxing, kissing, etc. What keeps this hot is the constant need to be touching, caressing each others face to get the water out, and so on.

* What other places in or out of the house make doing it different than in the bedroom?

Comment below!

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Quit thinking about it and LEAVE!

She says "I'm unhappy, terrified every time he comes, afraid of what he'll shout next. I hate my husband. He is always yelling and sometimes hits us. I want to leave him but what will people think? It will hurt our kids! I'll have to deal with everything on my own."

#1 What will people think about you leaving your abusive husband?
Think about this sentence again. What people think is not a problem it is an aid. People will congratulate you if they know the ordeal that you've been living and what you are saving your kids from. People will hep you. You are in control of what people you allow to affect you. Stop excusing yourself with people, show them by your actions the result of your choice!

#2 He'll be angry.
YES! He will be upset that he no longer has full control over you. He'll be fuming and he can no longer hurt you and your kids in order to get out his anger and will have to face his issues. If you are afraid of what he could do, look for help. Ask the authorities to help you, tell your family, friends, co-workers, schoolmates, kids' teachers, they can be your body guards.

#3 How to feed and shelter my kids alone, with out his income?
The economy isn't in favor of anyone, much less in favor of a single mom. Sometimes there's family, friends and government agencies that can help. Get the word out there that you need help and get that support group working. Hopefully you are employed. If not, start getting ideas together for ways you can increase your income. Remember there will be one less of you and so expenses should be less. Talk to a legal advisor about possibilities of keeping some of the things and money. Also, think about going back to school and look into short courses that can higer your posiblities at getting hired.

#4 The kids.
There will come a day when they will thank you. If you are unhappy and hurting they are unhappy and hurting. Being abused is not good for anything! If you treat your car poorly one day it will stop working! It is the same with people. Your kids need you to protect them. Someone does not become a father just by fertilizing an egg. Talk to you kids all the way. This separation will become a journey and kids like to know what's happening and how close are they to the destination. Help them to undestand that this is for their wellbeing. Let you kids know how much you love them.

Break ups are not fun even for adolecents who seem to change partners as the seasons change. You are smart, beautiful and worth a millioton!!

How to deal with falling out of love.

During different times in our lives we have different needs. There was a time when you had the perfect toy, you felt that no other toy was needed to fill you with fun! But you "grew out" of it. You interests and your need changed. With love things are similar.
I'm not saying that love partners are toy you use to have fun with then get tired and toss it. But that person that made you laugh has got caught up with stressful obligations and is no longer filling the empty space in your "chart of needs". And so without noticing this you begin to replace that joy. Then one day you confront yourself and ask why am I still with this person? I'm only using this as an example of why we fall out of love.
There can be tons of needs or reasons why you love that person. It is not any one's fault but if you are feeling uncomfortable you owe it to you and to your partner to be truthful. Speak up.

* First evaluate what are you missing? Which spark burnt out?

* In a relationship you are not alone! How does your partner feel about this? Sit and talk, be open to listen to how the other person feels. If you are not happy, chances are no one is happy!

* Can it be fixed? Are you willing to mend and put effort or have you decided to move on.

* Get help! You guys have family and friends and while you don't need any added pressure sometimes doing activities together, talking to others about each other, etc. reminds you of why you love each other.

Remember to be calm and not aggressive and respect each other's needs and desires.

Good Luck!

Cooking love 01

Kisses: are synonym of softness, sweetness, loving. And Coconut Kisses are no exception.

You'll need:

2 Cups of coconut shaves
1 Cup water
1 1/2 Cups of dark brown sugar (Could be Splenda brown sugar)

Put the water and the coconut to boil in a saucepan. Then add the brown sugar.
Slow cook on low heat for 30 minutes. Carefully stir until it become sticky. Then use a spoon to drop the mixture onto a greased cookie sheet. Let them cool and harden.

What started it all is what we argue about now!

Often I hear the complains "He keeps going to that place with his friends!" & " She dresses too sexy!" The reply goes something like: "She/he met me this way so can't complain now!" This is something to think about when we are dating.
*Don't start a relationship with someone who you want to make change entirely.
*If you meet your charming date at a club, probably this person enjoys music, drinks, parties. You can't expect to forbid this person from ever stepping into a club again.
*You felt attracted because she was wearing radiant make up, shinny jewels and a beautiful dress that outlined her figure. Now you feel threaten that other men will feel attracted to her if she keeps dressing this way?
The truth is that YES others will still feel attracted to your partner. And your partner will still want to maintain a social relationships with his/her friends. By no means should this interfere with your relationship. Remember that a huge part of making it work is compromise and in order to do so there must me trust and respect.

When it come to love anything is possible. That phrase is common knowledge and with today’s technology love happens in a much quicker and easier way. This leads me to believe that one can find love through the net. Few years ago I did some “online dating”. It wasn’t out of desperation like many rapidly judge, but instead because the opportunity to meet a wide variety of possible partners laid in the comfort of my home thorough my computer while wearing Pajamas. Want more reason?
1. Do you like Italians? Well you don’t have to go to Italy to meet your match. Online you can search what type of person you are interested in meeting. Some of the options are age, race, sex, and even some preferences like religion, political views, or sexual orientation.
2. For some people it is easier to voice out their thoughts and feelings through writing or without the pressure of being in person. Although one must be careful as this makes it easier for someone to lie or deceive.
3. If things went wrong there’s no need to move across the country. Just “delete” or “ignore” that person. This option is offered on all social networks.
Online dating could lead to a life partner or long lasting relationships with new friends. Just remember that not everything that seems always is. Weather online or off remember to enjoy life and take everything as a worth living experience!

Under Construction

Starting with clean laundry.

My Grandmother often reminds me that the dirty laundry should be washed at home. It means that laundry, like secrets are personal and should not be shared with others. I've always had a problem keeping my thoughts to myself. I belive it does well to share with others. This way you obtain another perspective, the experience from someone in the same situation or atleast the comfort of being understood.