During different times in our lives we have different needs. There was a time when you had the perfect toy, you felt that no other toy was needed to fill you with fun! But you "grew out" of it. You interests and your need changed. With love things are similar.
I'm not saying that love partners are toy you use to have fun with then get tired and toss it. But that person that made you laugh has got caught up with stressful obligations and is no longer filling the empty space in your "chart of needs". And so without noticing this you begin to replace that joy. Then one day you confront yourself and ask why am I still with this person? I'm only using this as an example of why we fall out of love.
There can be tons of needs or reasons why you love that person. It is not any one's fault but if you are feeling uncomfortable you owe it to you and to your partner to be truthful. Speak up.
* First evaluate what are you missing? Which spark burnt out?
* In a relationship you are not alone! How does your partner feel about this? Sit and talk, be open to listen to how the other person feels. If you are not happy, chances are no one is happy!
* Can it be fixed? Are you willing to mend and put effort or have you decided to move on.
* Get help! You guys have family and friends and while you don't need any added pressure sometimes doing activities together, talking to others about each other, etc. reminds you of why you love each other.
Remember to be calm and not aggressive and respect each other's needs and desires.
Good Luck!
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